Birth Song

The birthing process is intense. It’s no secret that it takes every ounce of a woman’s power in your life into the world. And one of those powers is the voice. Most Birth workers are comfortable with the range of sounds birthing women make but you still run into those who are not. When woman is silenced in the birthing room and told to not scream, don’t make noise, or calm down, they’re taking one of those powers away from her. Sound can be a pain reliever, a rhythm for the mother to cope, a distraction. It also can let others know she’s not coping well. The voice in the birthing process is important. We know how healing it is to express ourselves through our voice whether in singing or spoken word.

When a woman sings her birth song, she is opening her vocal chords and is releasing tension. When tension is released in the upper body, this leads to opening and release in the pelvis area. Why would you take this power away from her? Everything  we do in the birthing room is to assist opening in releasing. So mothers, partners, birth workers, let her voice be heard!

Moan, grunt, sing, breath as loud as you want. Roar!  Roar your baby out!

Body Image Risk and Reward in Massage

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Body image. Almost everybody has something about their body that they don’t like. For many people it’s a minor issue, no big deal. But some people have a major issue with their body image. It affects how they live and their happiness.
When I tell some people that I’m a massage therapist it can cause a strong reaction. They tell me, whether verbally or through their reaction and body language, that massage is not for them. Their body image is such an issue that they don’t think anybody else can accept them.

The paradox here is that massage can really help with body image issues. In massage school we were all nervous about taking off our clothes and letting somebody else touch us. It didn’t take long for us to discover that bodies are just bodies and become much more comfortable with our own. We also experienced how good receiving a massage made us feel. Something unexpected happened – when our bodies felt better we felt better about our bodies.

I think there are three options to consider. Let’s look at the risk versus reward for them.

1. Don’t get a massage.

This is the easiest because it involves doing nothing. The risk is low since you are not letting another person see or touch you at all.

The reward is zero. You didn’t get a massage so your body doesn’t feel any better, and you still have the stress you had before.

2. You get a massage, but the massage therapist either makes note of how you look, as if it matters.

If this has happened to you, I’m sorry. You got a crappy massage therapist. That’s a bummer, and I’m really sorry. You took a risk, and even if the rest of the massage was decent, got very little reward.

This is not going to happen if you come to me. Never. No way. I can’t say this strongly enough. It goes against the very nature of who I am, how I treat people, and what I believe.

3. You get a massage. A great massage. And the therapist does nothing to make you feel uncomfortable about your body. In fact, you feel pretty good about your body after the massage.

In this option your risk is low. I don’t care how your body looks. That’s none of my business. I just want to help it feel better. Your reward is high. Again your body will feel better from the massage and you can start feeling better about it.

I have no idea how your body got to be in the condition that it’s in. You may be dealing with something that you can’t control, such as a medical condition or an injury or accident. You may be in a lot of pain or are limited in what you can do physically. Since I don’t know what caused your body to be like it is now I can’t make any judgments about you.

I’ve worked on hundreds – maybe thousands – of people. Each body is interesting and I’ve yet to come across one that I could not help.
If you have been avoiding massage because you feel uncomfortable about your body, let’s find an option that works for you. You don’t even have to explain anything to me. Leave your clothes on. Stay sitting up or face down or lying on your side or however you want. It’s up to you.

It’s my job to help you feel better. That’s it. Together let’s find a way to help you relieve your pain and stress. Don’t let your body image keep you from feeling good.

Third trimester blues

        Here I am with baby three one year ago.  I am 9 months +1 and will be meeting my little guy 2 days later.  If you’re approaching the end of your pregnancy you might find this familiar.
9 months and 1 day pregnant!
9 months and 1 day pregnant!
      So, is the baby here yet?  Ugh! Here we go again.  Lets face it, when you get close to the end of your pregnancy, things are getting, lets say difficult.  You may feel tired all the time.  You dread dropping something for fear of having to actually maneuver to retrieve it.  You are always in the bathroom to pee, but forget about going poo.  You eat, you get heartburn.  You eat a little and get full, starving thirty minutes later.  Walking is good for you but man does your feet, and/or back hurt.  Then you hear those, lets call it what it is, obnoxious questions.
      Oh, the baby isn’t here yet?  (Insert sarcastic reply)
      How big is the baby now, he/she looks big?  {Insert rude comeback question, in your head of course or better yet out loud)
      Are you carrying twins?  {Use the “are you serious” facial expression of choice here}
      Hang in there girl!
      Sleep.
      Eat well and as best you can.
      Move your body how you want as often as you can.
      Did I mention sleep!
      Last, but not least, those annoying comments, don’t even dignify them.  You are beautiful, you are not too big or too small, your baby is going to come when she is ready.  Keep you head and feet up and enjoy your beautiful pregnant you!!