The Art of Letting Go and Pelvic Health

Reverse Kegel – The unsung hero of pelvic wellness. If you have pelvic pain and leakage and you are doing the usual recommend Kegel strengthening exercises, but are finding worsening pain or no results, you might be a candidate for reverse Kegel program. Pelvic pain may be caused by shortened pelvic floor muscles and possible trigger points. Kegel exercises would just further shorten those already tight muscles. So reverse Kegel is ideal for lengthening and releasing the pelvic floor muscles.

Incorporating diaphragmatic breathing and various positions to facilitate lengthening of the pelvic floor muscles you can find your way back to pelvic wellness. Depending on how long you have had this pain, you may need patience with yourself. A lot of us are holding our pelvic floor muscles and have been for years without being aware of it. It will take patience ad practice. Reverse Kegel’s need the art of letting go!

Seek a professional to help you on your way to pelvic wellness. I am taking clients to work externally with those with diagnosed pelvic issues. Working a pelvic wellness program into your massage session. DM if you are interested. Or if you’d like suggestions for local Physical therapists and other practitioner’s I’d be happy to guide you.

Wellness Tip: Salt Compress

So, I thought I would start sharing some natural wellness tips that have helped my family with you to help you and your families. I’ll try to be consistent with these, but you know life happens. So on to my first tip.

‘Tis the season for all kinds of infections and illness. One of which is the bane of moms everywhere. The dreaded ear infection. It is painful and can cause our little ones such discomfort and tears. Which may lead to mom shedding tears because they can’t get their baby comfortable. One way to help give some almost instant relief is a salt compress.

Why It Works

So salt has been in media for a while now for its healing properties, from salt lamps to salt caves. There are some lovely benefits. The salt, particularly Himalayan salt, holds the heat well, it can draw out fluids in the ear, and is purported to have ionic properties. If you add lavender to the mix you get an anti-inflammatory and nervine benefit. So how?

Salt Sock

  • Get a cotton sock
  • Fill with 1/2 cup of salt either sea salt or Himalayan
  • Add lavender flowers or a few drops of lavender essential oil

Heat the sock in a pan for a 3-5 minutes or microwave for 30 seconds. Check the temperature like you would baby’s bath with your hand so you don’t burn yourself. Apply to your troublesome ear and repeat as needed.

There are actually some lovely herbal remedies for earaches and infections but that is for another time.

I hope you find this helpful and if you have a health issue you’d like natural remedies let me know.

Be well & Be Nourished

Dee

Herbs for sweet sleep

Sometimes I get by with a little help from my plant friends. Slumber should be sweet tonight. These plants are great for insomnia anxiety and restless nights. They have a slight bitter taste but I love that. You could jazz it up with rose petals, another fave of mine, or lavender. Also, stay away from the electronic devices at least 30 minutes before bed and keep the lights low around the home before bed so your body gets the message that its time to sleep. Do you have a favorite pre-bed routine. It’s not just for little ones. Grown ups need a bedtime routine too. –

Here my favorite herbs are passionflower, hops, skullcap, and catnip. Or you could get a good quality chamomile tea. The key to making a medicinal tea is to steep it for at least 20 minutes. You can really benefit from the regular use of herbal teas in your wellness regimen. If you have any questions about herbs just drop me an email.

dee@ebbandflowbirth.com

Nourished Mother Collective- Online Support for Mothers

Motherhood can be lonely.
Postpartum support for moms is a necessity

Mothering can be lonely and hard. You work countless hours caring for your little one(s). How can we counter this feeling? Mom groups. Some love interacting with other women in person. Some introvert moms prefer one on one. And because of time constraints or demographic logistics online groups are their best option.

Whatever it is we need more of them. These groups help moms to have a safe space to voice their hearts concern without fear of judgment. To hear from other moms how they’ve overcome challenges.

I’m starting an online Mothers collective soon to do my part. If you’d like to join the beta group at a highly discounted price, please contact me and tell me more about your concerns and needs. Love Dee! 💖

Nourished Mothers Collective

Postpartum support through education, non-judgmental online group, and more. Prepare for motherhood and learn to nourish your heart, body, and mind. Join this Beta Group for a deep savings of $200.

$174.00

The First Forty Days~ Practice Stillness

Rediscover who you are in the postpartum stillness

We are constantly on the move. Solving problems, meeting challenges, reaching goals, perhaps even running a small business and shouting the mantra #hustleharder! When you are in those first few weeks there is no greater struggle I see as a postpartum doula than the shift of mindset from constant movement in the mind, heart, and body to the slow living the 4th trimester deserves. Your whole being was poured out in the birthing of your little one. To quote a very common phrase, you can’t pour from an empty cup. To make the mind shift, it will take practice and pregnancy is the best time to practice stilling your mind.

If you’d like to learn more about postpartum support and how I can help you transition into motherhood, please email me at Dee@ebbandflowbirth.com.

If you’re not in the area but are looking for support I have a beta online cohort if you will that will take you through postpartum challenges and holistic practices to heal your best. The program is called Nourished Mother Collective. Live weekly group calls and exclusive membership for 12-months. Feel free to email if you’d like to learn more.

Online postpartum education and virtual postpartum support circle

The First Forty Days ~ Feed & Be Fed

Plan for your postpartum

When we look at a portrait of postpartum and what the ideal is, it is simple. Yet it is hard. Feeding your baby does not always come naturally, breastfeeding is not always desired and you may face challenges with bottle feeding, tongue ties, lip ties, or premature birth pose challenges. Being fed well as a new mother sounds easy enough but we don’t always have family near by to help, or your new to the area you birthed in. The last thing you should be doing is cooking three meals a day and washing dishes etc. What can you do to meet the challenges as they arise? Plan, gather support, local professionals and resources,and learn all you can about the challenges before your baby arrives. If you’d like help in your 4th trimester email me for more information. dee@ebbandflowbirth.com #planyourpostpartum #postpartummatters #nourishedmotherscollective #postpartumeducation #firstfortydays #newbornmother #findyourhelpers

Stress – Does It Affect Your Pregnancy?

Stress: In a medical or biological context stress is a physical, mental, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension. Stresses can be external (from the environment, psychological, or social situations) or internal (illness, or from a medical procedure).

Pregnancy can be a cause for a great mixture of emotions. Whether it is planned or unplanned, doubts may creep in whether your are able to care for a baby be it physically, financially, or emotionally. Fear of lack of support to help you care for the baby.  Physical changes that you are not looking forward to. Concerns about your career. Or how will this new person in your life affect your relationship you your partner. Fatigue, morning sickness, headaches, aches body, lack of sleep, and perhaps other physical illnesses during pregnancy can lead to stress.

Physical Affects of Stress

When we are stressed the body creates more blood catecholamines.  These are stress hormones. In pregnancy if you have elevated levels, you are at risk of developing trouble sleeping, fatigue, high blood pressure, lowered immune system, anxiety, etc.  These hormones can slow labor down. It can decrease circulation to the placenta decreasing baby’s ability to be nourished in utero. The effects of postpartum stressors can be a decrease in oxytocin production which is important in mother baby bonding and is helpful in mothers ability to heal, and increases the risk for postpartum mental health problems.  The effects of stress on baby’s health are lower birth weights, premature delivery. There have even been studies down that have correlated low birth weights with high blood pressure in adults.

How to De-stress For a Healthier Pregnancy and Postpartum

First on my list of course is massage therapy!  So many studies have been done proving over and over massages ability to soothe and restore the nervous system.  It helps the body to know what needs correction and helps it to reach a balanced state. The Touch Research Institute has done some amazing research on the effects of massage therapy and pregnancy.  Here is one case study showing the enormous benefits of massage in pregnancy.

“Women who received massage therapy reported decreased depression, anxiety, and leg and back pain. Cortisol levels decreased and, in turn, excessive fetal activity decreased, and the rate of prematurity was lower in the massage group. In a study of labor pain, women who received massage therapy experienced significantly less pain, and their labors were on average 3 h shorter with less need for medication. An underlying mechanism we have been exploring is that these effects are mediated by increased vagal activity.”

Field, T. (2010). Pregnancy and labor massage therapy. Expert Review of Obstetrics and Gynecology, 5, 177-181.

In essence, massage works!  It is well worth it to put massage therapy in your plan of care during pregnancy.  You will feel the benefits now and see them well into labor and your baby will too.  As for postpartum, I will discuss that another time. What are some other stress reducers you can implement in between you massage appointments?

  • Swimming
  • Prenatal Pilates or yoga
  • Prenatal dance (Dance For Birth®)
  • Gentle exercise (I recommend Essentrics ® as an apprentice instructor)
  • Daily walks
  • Talking with someone such as a trusted friend or a licensed professional

So if you are feeling stressed or anxious, know that it is okay to take some time for yourself.  It is okay to ask for help. You are not being selfish but you are caring for the wellbeing of yourself and your unborn baby.  If you have other recommendations that helped you to lower your stress during pregnancy, please share in the comments.

For more information on massage therapy appointment please feel free to contact me at dee@ebbandflowbirth.com or make an appointment online if you are ready to jump on the massage table asap!  

Special Gift for Buffalo Mom Squad Members!

Hi all. If you’re a member of the Buffalo Mom Squad Facebook group, head on over to see your exclusive deal for massage services. If you’re not a member, I highly suggest you join this fabulous group. Meet with likeminded moms for fun meetups, recommendations for local businesses and special walks just for their members.

Having mom friends is so important. Buffalo mom and real estate agent Ashley Tundo created the group so that moms could meet in Western New York for mon dates, play dates and to find a sisterhood in motherhood. It’s a non-judgements space for moms to support and uplift one another.

We are fortunate to have a dedicated online space and someone who organizes fun events for moms with local businesses.

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